"Everyday isn't as entertaining, Birthdays aren't as special and Holidays are a bit more lonely. But it's all worth it in the end, cause when you come home to me and are in my arms, everything is 1000 times better. Being a military girlfriend, fiance or wife is the hardest job ever and the one with the best reward in the end."

My boyfriend recently shipped off to boot camp to be a Navy Corpsman. I can't be more proud of him. I know what lies ahead of me, having friends and family in the military and I know that there may be times that I won't hear from him for months but, I will stand behind him through this entire journey.

My boyfriend and I recently got back together after being apart for 2 1/2 years. It gave us the time we needed to take care of the things that were tearing us apart. We both have looked at it as a blessing because we know that he would've never followed his dreams and left me had we been together this entire time. He couldn't have been able to. Breaking up and getting ourselves together and becoming healthy individuals helped both of us. Now we can have a future together and we can both follow our dreams.

He tried talking me out of our relationship before he left because he didn't want me to be lonely or worried or hurting and all I could think about was how much he meant to me and how I wouldn't give up. I told him that I was as prepared as I can be for what lies ahead for us. I may know and I may be aware of some of the things that will come to pass but that doesn't mean I know how I'll feel or react when it happens to us.

I am the luckiest woman, in my opinion, that I have someone who regardless of distance, will always be there for me. Who took our time apart and took life into his hands and started following his dreams. Someone who loves me with all his heart and will be there by my side even if he's across oceans. Someone I trust wholeheartedly and who trusts me. It took me a while to see what I lost and I say better late then never on realizing that mistake.

We have a lot ahead of us now and a promise we've made is that we're gonna write each other as often as we can and as much as we can. Even after he's done with basic, we decided that we'll continue to write just so we have that reminder that we love one another and have the others support in all that we choose to do. I took on the hardest job in the world and I'm gonna do it as best I can for the man I love.

We know we can make it, we know we have the strength to support each other in our endeavors and we know that we're there 100,000% on what ever choices we make during this time.

The love of my life serves his country and I stand behind him.

So, the latest and greatest of me: Life in a communal home is different and I find myself thinking sometimes "I miss my apartment" but, thankfully, it's getting to be less and less. My roomies are great and sometimes I have to remind myself that nobody's perfect and that even they're allowed bad days and just like they do for me, I can't take it personally. The household did go through a rough patch where it seemed everybody was on their period and we were all just kinda fighting. Thankfully, that is over and we shouldn't experience another one for another 4 years. Yays to living with men.

So, at the beginning of the month, I shaved my head for the St. Baldricks Foundation and raised some money for the kids with cancer foundation. I also was able to complete my yearly task which had been given to me by my teacher and High Priestess. I was to give up my vanity and I knew that my only real vanity was my hair so, off it went and in the process, I raised some money for kids with cancer.

Our first Holiday as a functioning dysfunctional family is coming up and we're all looking forward to it. I honestly can't wait cause this is also my first Holiday as the hostess for my family and cook. And I must say, this was probably better with the waiting cause I only just really started cooking a couple of years ago.

So, I'm sure you'd like to know about the 20lbs thing and here it is... I've been having problems keeping food down for about the last month and a half. Saw the doc Fri, finally, and I was weighed. I had weighed myself at the beginning of the month and when I saw the scale on Fri, I had a small panic attack. Last I checked, losing 20lbs in a month, and this is what my doc said to me as well, was not a good thing. Anyway, the doc checked me out and decided that my throat needed a rest so he put me on a no solid diet for three days. He also messed with my meds to see if he couldn't help me keep the food down.

Well, that's really it for now.

Blessed Be and Happy Samhain!!

Hello all, I have some questions for you and I hope you can help with some answers:

Now, these are love related questions. I seem to have the answers for everyone but myself so, maybe someone out there has the answers that I'd like to hear. I will give a scenario and then ask questions.

First scenario: You meet someone, and they are a lot like you. Same interests, habits, even a similar background to your own. You have your differences and disagreements but, are close friends and usually depend on one another for issues, they become your leaning post as it were. There is a mutual attraction and respect between the two of you but neither of you is willing to make a move on it. One out of fear of rejection and the other sure it would fail.

First question: Are two people, who are very much more alike then different able to make a lasting and working relationship?

Second scenario: You have had many bad and failed relationships for many reasons. You don't feel like you can meet someone at the intellectual level you need to feel satisfied in conversation. You feel no intellectual stimulation from those you have dated, been involved with or been intimate with.

Second question: Is it possible for someone with high intellectual needs to be with someone who is not capable of reaching those needs?

Third scenario: You are a traditionalist. You believe in meeting people in the old fashioned way, i.e. the grocery store, at a ball game, in a bar, ect, ect. You've been in many failed relationships and are having issues meeting people in the more modern world. Someone recommends a dating site.

Third question: Do you make the change and go on a dating site, giving up your old fashioned beliefs and catch up with the modern world?

Ok, those are the questions and I would love to hear from you on what you think. You can answer one or all if you like, but I would like some input on what you think.